Happy Valentines Day
“And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love”
-1 Corinthians 3:13-
Tomorrow we observe what is known as Valentines Day. It’s a day when we send to our “Sweetheart” or ‘Honey” a gift or greeting, expressing our love toward that person. Unfortunately, there are many people who have a very difficult time showing or expressing love to another.
I believe that the word “love” is the most overly used, most loosely used, and most misused word in our English language. It’s a word that seems to lump everything together. How often do we say “I love my spouse”, “I love my dog”, “I love ice cream and donuts”, “I love my job”? As loosely as people use the word—love, one would think there is no difference between loving a pizza and loving my wife.
I remember when I first met my wife 28+ years ago. After our first date, I was literally on cloud-nine and felt as if I was in love. I remember going home and … climbing up the door and shutting the stairs. I said my shoes and I took off my prayers. I shut off my bed and climbed into the light, all because Sonja kissed me goodnight. Believe me; I don’t behave that way after eating a pizza. Pretty close though. Just kidding!
If I were to ask 10 people to define the word “love” and give me examples of how to demonstrate that love, I would probably get 10 different responses. My point is this: the need to understand and define what love is, and then being able to act upon it, is absolutely fundamental for having a strong, solid, and healthy relationship with people, most of all with our spouses.
In 1 Corinthians 13, the Apostle Paul gives us not so much a definition of love, but a list of ingredients of what loves does and doesn’t do. I ask that each of you take a moment and read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, and as you do, try putting your name in the place where the word love should be. “_____ is patient and kind. _____ is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. _____ does not demand its own way. _____ is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. _____ is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. _____ never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever”.
The best example of this kind of love is found in God Himself. God didn’t sit in heaven and yell down to us, “Hey world! I sure do love you people!” No, instead He sent His Son to earth to show us His love through both His words and His actions (Romans 5:8). What about us?
“This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you”
Happy Valentines Day,